How to notice your hidden beliefs?
Let me share with you a way to spot the beliefs behind your behaviors and emotions.
Hey,
It's Alex.
We all have beliefs that we developed since we were kids.
Most of them are hidden, and we’ve even forgotten about them.
But their consequences can be seen in our lives to this day.
What people aren't aware of is:
Our behaviors.
Our patterns that we have.
Our feelings prevent us from succeeding.
All this comes from our deep beliefs about ourselves, other people, or the world around us.
Let me show you how you can spot your hidden beliefs:
Think with yourself right now.
What kind of behavior do you have that prevents you from having what you want?
Or if it's not behavior…
What kind of emotion are you holding onto that keeps you stuck in the same place?
You see...
Our behavior patterns or emotions that refuse to fade away from our reality are signals that something deeper is going on inside of us.
Which kind of signals?
If you’ve procrastinated for most of your life,
If the main basic emotion that you carry in life is sadness,
There is a reason for that.
And you can notice the reason if you pay attention.
Pay attention to what's going on in your head and body when you experience the same circle...
Your thoughts hold information inside about a belief that keeps you stuck.
Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself when you behave in a way that you don't like.
Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself when you again feel sadness, anger, or any emotion that’s stuck with you.
Because you are in the loop.
An endless cycle that was created a long time ago…
And this cycle has a purpose.
It actually protects you from your own destructive belief.
Let me explain...
When we have a destructive belief about ourselves, we create a unique survival mechanism that prevents us from feeling the pain of the belief itself.
It's protecting us from the pain.
So let’s say, for example:
For some reason, when you were a kid, you started believing that "you aren't worthy.”
You might develop a behavior of perfectionism in order not to feel the pain of that belief. As a result of that:
You will become the most productive person.
You will do everything perfectly.
Or you will become a people pleasure.
Just not to feel the pain of the belief…
Because without doing all these things, you actually feel unworthy.
And the only way not to feel that is to keep the pattern alive.
Does a belief like "I'm not worthy" always grow into a pattern of perfectionism?
Not at all.
Each person has a unique belief system and behavior.
However, eliminating an ineffective behavior or emotion that prevents us from being the best version of ourselves will always lead to our belief system.
It's an exciting journey to understand the belief system of humankind.
It requires coaching skills with a lot of patience. Because in order to heal our ineffective beliefs, we need to delve a little bit into our past…
A past that we sometimes don't even remember.
In my coaching practice, I’m using the Lefkoe method, which has existed since 1985. It helps eliminate ineffective beliefs that cause us to act in a way that doesn't serve us in business or life.
Reply to this email, “I want to work on my beliefs,” and I will send you the process details.
Take care,
Alex
Result coach for Entrepreneurs